By the time the deposits are made, everyone is exhausted, hopefully exhilarated, and ready to be done with the whole darned thing. The tension, stress, and ups and downs are almost inevitable these days. But now you have committed! You have purchased the swag. Time to relax. Well, in a way.
After the upheaval that has lasted for months or even years, it may seem impossible to return to so-called normal life, but that’s exactly what high school seniors' parents now have to do. You may not even remember what it felt like, you’ve been so swept up in the tsunami that is the college application process. But think back on the days when your child was just a sophomore or a junior and recall the things you did then that you haven’t done in a while. I bet there are a few. Like going to the movies or taking a drive. Or maybe you just want to sit still for a few minutes and enjoy a glass of wine.
It is now time for the whole family to hit reset. Like a computer that is acting strangely that is magically restored to normal functioning after hitting the infamous reset button that restores the default settings.
Amidst the preparation for finals, graduation, celebrations, and the summer, this is a great time to:
You have likely sacrificed a great deal to get your child into college. You have done yeoman’s work in the past few months (years, really!) securing your 17 year-old a place in a first-year class. Now it’s time for you. It’s the old adage that you can’t care for others if you don’t take care of yourself first. This is your time.
For many years, as a dean at three Ivy League colleges and now as an AVP at a university with an extraordinary mission, I have had a front row seat to the obstacles to success that college students and their parents confront every year. Even at so-called elite, highly selective colleges such as Princeton, Harvard, and Columbia, where I spent some of my career, students struggle on a daily basis to remain healthy, happy, grounded, and to stay in school. I am dedicated to helping them.